The Life Changing Question My Millionaire Friend Asks Himself Everyday

Being Driven by Hate the Right Way

“Model someone who is already successful because success leaves clues.” — Tony Robbins

My three years spent with extremely accomplished people brought me a wealth of knowledge. Specifically, the co-owner of the agency at which I was contracted possessed all the trappings of unrelenting greatness.

He was very fit, rich and a proud dad. I loved listening to him speak because he did so with tons of passion, especially when he truly believed in something.

One day, he caught my attention more than usual as he motivated the entire office with his remarkable mindset. Here’s the life-changing question:

“Everyday I wake up and ask myself, ‘what do I hate about my life?’”

He then explained to us that whatever the answer is, he sets out on a journey to fix those things. He made it sound simpler than 1st grade math, and everyone in the room seemed to feel the same way.

Granted, fixing what you don’t like about your life is hard. But what really stood out to me is the specific word that he used:


When I think about what I don’t like about my life, my desire to change those things is not very high. But when I think about what I HATE about my life, emotion comes over me and the desire to change those things is huge!

The personal growth that I have already experienced in my life the past year wouldn’t have been possible without me being driven by hate. It is a subtle mindset shift that will work wonders if you allow it to, which brings me to my next question.

What do you hate about your life?

Personal Development Writer | Deante Unlimited podcast, Host | Deante: Under Construction web series, Star | Deante Young Enterprises, Chief Creative Architect

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