How to Write a Love Letter — to Yourself

Self-Love Matters More Than We Think

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“The real difficulty is to overcome how you think about yourself.” — Maya Angelou

If we can pleasure ourselves, we can definitely write a love letter to ourselves.

Self-love is a form of self-compassion. According to the Emily Program, here’s a few ways that it will benefit us:

  • Greater happiness
  • Stronger resilience
  • Increased motivation
  • Better physical and mental health

I’m really good at writing letters to women that I like. That could be “like” as in “I really dig their vibe,” or “like” as in “I want to navigate the inside of their panties,” or even, “like” as in “I really love them.” I think many of us are good at conveying how we feel about special people in our lives.

Except, we don’t always seem to be good at expressing love to ourselves. At least, that’s how it had been for myself many times since I made my world premiere that April Fool’s Day many moons ago.

Nowadays, I am damn good at expressing self-love and I’m about to explain how we all can get better at expressing how much we love ourselves.

“Everyone of us needs to show how much we care for each other and, in the process, care for ourselves.” — Diana, Princess of Wales

Before You Write It, Get Clear On What’s Wonderful About You

Believe it or not, a love letter works wonders. Yup. A love letter to ourselves. Think about how many times we’ve called ourselves “dumb” or “stupid” without even flinching.

We need to stop that nonsense.

One time, I called myself an idiot because I started French kissing a girl before taking my damn gum out my mouth. It was ridiculous.

Writing a love letter to yourself can only happen once you discover your self worth and the things that you really like or appreciate about yourself. Brainstorm ideas on paper, or in a note taking app. Once that’s done, convert the ideas into a list.

Be Your Biggest Fan When Writing to Yourself

Don’t overthink it; perfection is not a requirement. Complete the rough draft of the list and start writing the letter to yourself. Flatter yourself. Hell, get mushy if you prefer. This won’t be for anyone else’s eyes.

Even if you think you suck, I guarantee that there’s some shit that you also think is wonderful about yourself and very likely love without realizing it.

For example: if you have functioning legs, you definitely love them. That might seem like a silly or strange thing to include, but if you saw a person in a wheelchair, your perspective might change.

In that respect, being able to walk is an extraordinary quality to have.

So, put that in the letter if you are struggling to think of other stuff. I’ll give you a couple examples of things that I wrote in my own personal love letter to myself.

I mentioned how much I appreciate my incredible sense of humor. I talked about how much I love the way that I lift other people up when they are not feeling their best.

Copy my ideas if the shit sounds good.

I mentioned how much I love that I have grown so much as a person over the years. Really, there’s no limit to what you can write.

The whole point of it is to get rid of negative self talk and gradually move towards feeling much better about yourself.

Let’s face it, you are a special commodity in some way, shape or form.

That should be celebrated.

A Couple Things to Remember

I have long believed that one of the most important relationships that we can ever have is the one that we have with ourselves.

In the spirit of that mentality, always remember how fucking amazing you are! Practice saying that out loud to yourself because it needs to become a non-negotiable self-belief.

In order for that to happen, we have to be able to look at our perceived flaws and shortcomings and still understand just how valuable we are.

The rest of the world tears us down enough. We all have enemies or jealous people or some form of haters. Some we know about, some that are secret. But whatever the case, we have to be our own cheerleader. Sometimes that might mean being our own ‘lover.’

Write that letter to yourself. Read it as much as you need to.

This shit works!

Personal Development Writer | Deante Unlimited podcast, Host | Deante: Under Construction web series, Star | Deante Young Enterprises, Chief Creative Architect

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